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Birthdays of My Dad and My Father

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Dad’s birthday is today; gone now nearly 5 years, he would be turning 92.

He hated Christmas.  Apparently his birthday was forgotten every year in the midst of Christmas preparations when he was growing up.  The pain of being forgotten never seemed to leave him.  He would not allow us to put up a tree until his birthday had passed, and even then did so grudgingly.

I know now Dad’s Christmas experience is only a tiny window into his life story. More

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From Estrangement to Reconciliation

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Estrangement stories cross my path often lately.  It’s a painful and sensitive topic, for both sides.  Some people are hurting because they’ve chosen to estrange themselves, others because they don’t understand why a loved one has estranged.  Still others long for the relief of estrangement, but the pain of setting that boundary is clearly too difficult.

The journey of coming to terms with why we need to estrange ourselves can be grueling, depressing, and exhausting.  Desire for belonging to family is strong, and it took considerable pain – and 3 attempts – before I was finally able to definitively draw my line in the sand.  More

Finding Healing in Unexpected Places -and a Book Giveaway

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The theme of adoption has always been of interest to me.  As a child I used to tell people I was adopted.  I always thought if you were adopted it meant you were wanted, therefore special.  It never occurred to me there might be pain involved in being adopted, or giving a child up for adoption.  Over the years I’ve spoken with people on both sides of the adoption picture and now understand it’s not the fairy tale I used to fantasize about.

**Spoiler Alert

The British movie Philomena caught my eye recently because of the adoption theme.  Then it captured my heart because of the healing and forgiveness in her story. More

Forget Resolutions! I Have a Bucket List!

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Happy New Year, Everyone!!!

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!

The New Year is here, fireworks have faded, and partygoers have headed home.  The next common tradition is to write out those resolutions intended to improve our lives in the coming year.  

Well, New Year’s Resolutions always left me feeling like a failure; the emotion amplified as year-end approached and my resolutions remained just words on a paper.  The flab stayed (or grew), the exercise routine never started, the clothes in my closet didn’t get replaced…you get the idea.  So, I stopped making resolutions years ago without any regrets!

Instead, I developed a list in my head of Things To Do in my lifetime.  It wasn’t until I watched “The Bucket List”,

Bucket List -The Movie

Bucket List -The Movie

I realized that was exactly what I had.  A Bucket List!  I just never had a fancy name for my ‘wish list’.  In lieu of a New Year’s resolution blog, I thought I’d share my evolving Bucket List with you in the hopes you’ll share yours, too.

A few things I’ve already crossed off my list: More

Journey of Forgiving My Father

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Long after I estranged myself from my parents, I heard through the grapevine dad was moving to an assisted living facility.  His mortality hit me like a brick and The Journey Continues Here

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