November 22, 2015
Family, My Journey with God, Personal Growth
Family, Forgiveness, motherhood, parenting
Mom moved into an assisted living facility this month. She turned 90 this year, and she’s been legally blind for several years so it’s probably overdue.
Still, it comes on the heels of me finding out I’ll be a grandma in a few short months.
I feel sandwiched in the middle of two life altering events. Mom easing into her final chapter, my grandson soon to make his debut chapter.
The timing is odd, the emotions hard to describe.
August 20, 2015
facing fear, Forgiveness, getting help, gratitude, hope
The Starfish Story came to mind recently when I let someone know how much of a difference they’ve made in my life. I have been the starfish, now it is my turn to be the boy.
September 20, 2014
Facing Fear, Family, Personal Growth, Recovery, Trauma
abuse survivor, Adrian Peterson, childhood trauma, Domestic Violence, Facing Adversity, facing fear, Forgiveness, getting help, Greg Hardy, Jon Dwyer, motherhood, NFL, Ray Rice, trauma, truth
It would be easy to make a poster-child of Adrian Peterson.
A powerful man hitting a defenseless child? What a lowlife, coward, and disgrace. Let’s all throw stones at him.
What if Adrian Peterson was simply parenting the way he’d been parented.
How can we be expected to do the right thing if we’ve never been taught what the right thing is?
I am in no way condoning or excusing this behavior, nor that of any version of domestic violence.
But I believe there’s more to the story. Much more.
August 7, 2014
Facing Fear, Personal Growth, Recovery, Trauma
abuse survivor, childhood trauma, emotional strength, Facing Adversity, facing fear, finding freedom, Forgiveness, getting help, gratitude, healing, Letting Go, personal growth, PTSD, recovery, Spiritual Journey, Struggle to Forgive, Suicidal, Transformation, trauma, truth, wearing masks
Feeling better seems to be a universal goal of humankind.
When we’re experiencing physical, emotional, or spiritual pain, the instinct to feel better can take on a life of its own. Most of us don’t even realize our subconscious is in overdrive doing whatever it takes to avoid bad feelings.
The problem is this: what makes us feel better usually isn’t what makes us get better.
Feeling Better More
March 12, 2014
Facing Fear, Family, My Journey with God, Personal Growth, Recovery, Trauma
abuse survivor, alcoholic parents, childhood trauma, emotional strength, Facing Adversity, facing fear, finding freedom, Forgiveness, Forgiving My Father, Forgiving My Mother, getting help, healing, Mental Health, motherhood, recovery, Transformation, truth
Estrangement stories cross my path often lately. It’s a painful and sensitive topic, for both sides. Some people are hurting because they’ve chosen to estrange themselves, others because they don’t understand why a loved one has estranged. Still others long for the relief of estrangement, but the pain of setting that boundary is clearly too difficult.
The journey of coming to terms with why we need to estrange ourselves can be grueling, depressing, and exhausting. Desire for belonging to family is strong, and it took considerable pain – and 3 attempts – before I was finally able to definitively draw my line in the sand. More
January 30, 2014
Family, Personal Growth, Recovery
adoption, childhood trauma, emotional strength, Facing Adversity, facing fear, Family, finding freedom, Forgiveness, Forgiving My Father, Forgiving My Mother, healing, Letting Go, Linda Hoye, Mental Health, Philomena, recovery, Transformation, truth, Two Hearts
The theme of adoption has always been of interest to me. As a child I used to tell people I was adopted. I always thought if you were adopted it meant you were wanted, therefore special. It never occurred to me there might be pain involved in being adopted, or giving a child up for adoption. Over the years I’ve spoken with people on both sides of the adoption picture and now understand it’s not the fairy tale I used to fantasize about.
The British movie Philomena caught my eye recently because of the adoption theme. Then it captured my heart because of the healing and forgiveness in her story. More
December 5, 2013
Family, My Journey with God, Personal Growth, Recovery, Trauma
abuse survivor, Christmas Memories, emotional strength, Facing Adversity, facing fear, Family, finding freedom, Forgiveness, getting help, gratitude, healing, Mental Health, personal growth, recovery, Transformation, truth
While joyful and exciting, the holidays can also be a difficult time of year.
There were many Christmases I bounced between having fun and enjoying the season with my husband and kids while struggling with deep-seated depression.
My lack of family-of-origin connection during the holidays magnified feelings of rejection and worthlessness; especially related to my dad. A sweet and tender story about an old violin touched me many years ago during an especially difficult time of depression. Though not a cure, it was balm to the soul.
If feelings of loneliness, worthlessness or rejection plague you during the holidays I offer you this story. I hope it reminds you that you are indeed worthy and loved.
The Old Violin
~Myra Brooks Welch
‘Twas battered and scarred, And the auctioneer thought it hardly worth his while to waste his time on the old violin, but he held it up with a smile. More