After a much longer hiatus than planned, I’ve made a commitment to resume blogging. You have all been so vital to my healing and continued work. I’ve missed you! I hope I can give back a fraction of what you give to me.
Last summer I made another commitment that is dramatically changing me. I went back to school and am in the process of becoming certified in teaching groups. My focus will be healing through telling our stories in a safe group setting. I’m really excited about this new journey.
Part of the premise of my training is leaders can only take others where they have gone themselves. There is considerable emphasis on continuing to do our own work if we truly want to help others (and ourselves). I have been a firm believer in this for a long time and it was a large part of why I chose this particular training program.
Though most of my recovery work continues to be through individual therapy, I have done some small group work as well. It was a wonderful adjunct to my therapy. During the recent group work, I’ve been asked questions I’ve never considered before. Others have pointed out observations I’ve never heard before.
This has proven to be a two-sided sword. Simultaneously I have discovered more layers of pain along with more layers of healing. Likewise, the homework has been both depressing and freeing. It is exhausting yet exhilarating.
I am home.
After so many years of trying to ‘shush’ my primary language of trauma/emotion/recovery, I am embracing it with open arms. I am eager for the growth these changes will bring me, and for what I will be able to share with others.
How about you? What changes are happening, or do you want to happen, in your life?
Nov 30, 2018 @ 09:08:23
Good morning, every single time I read your words, I feel slightly braver. Is that a word? I feel a tiny bit of bravery and courage slip through the computer screen from you. I was diagnosed with breast cancer 5.11 years ago. I said no thank you to chemotherapy and radiation. (woah, Nellie you can just imagine the storm that created). Moving forward, I/we changed 151+ things in my life. Once in a while, I just want to tell someone or a group for the reason that I “need” to say it aloud sometimes. I am not in the mood to defend my choices nor do I want to have a discussion. Often times, I think it would just release a lot just to say it to another human being. I don’t need advice or opinions on this topic currently. I just need to say it aloud. ……..I think what you are doing will HELP so many other people. Your kind spirit has a way of making many of us feel like it okay to let our guard slip just slightly. Thanks for sharing your courage and bravery with all of us readers. You are appreciated and of value to me.
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Dec 02, 2018 @ 08:48:58
You Are So Brave! To make your radical choice so out of the box about your cancer is entirely brave! And you should not have had to expend extra energy defending your decision about your care for your own body.
You totally get what this group thing is all about! I have had healing in small and big ways with my group already that has been incredible. Exactly what you said. Listening -with feedback or questions intended to make us think -not defend- and mainly Acceptance. The freedom to just be who we are and explore what that means. It is so healing! I am excited to share with others. Thank you for your encouragement. It means so much to me!!!
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Dec 02, 2018 @ 23:22:29
Oh my dear, I have snazzy pon poms and I am waving them madly. I am a cheerleader in your corner! Huge thanks for listening, encouraging nature.
I will be back.
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Nov 24, 2018 @ 13:01:38
I am a severe trauma survivor , new to your site and also am interested in story and group facilitation. Thank you for your transparency. Would you be willing to share where you are receiving your training?
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Nov 27, 2018 @ 14:36:16
Hi Kim, thanks for visiting here and your interest! I would be happy to share more of those details. In my “About” tab is my email address if you’d like to touch base that way. thanks again!
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Nov 15, 2018 @ 10:27:32
I totally agree with the power of sharing our stories. I host a “Heart Change Retreat” at my home where up to 10 women gather for 3 days. Every morning they write out their “God story” (stories from their past most often of emotional wounds and pain). In the afternoon, they read to the group what they wrote. There’s no solving or rescuing or offering advice. Even though it’s such a simple format, the women are changed by God. Such freedom in telling truth. So, Denise, I’m so glad you will be giving others a safe place to heal. Bravo and praise the Lord.
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Nov 16, 2018 @ 06:04:19
I love this idea Kathy!! It sounds so amazing!! And isn’t it wonderful to find people who are committed to being so brutally honest with themselves and each other? So profound and healing on so many levels!! I love what you are doing!!!
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Nov 12, 2018 @ 14:20:53
I do not have the trauma history that you have, Denise, however I do have trauma. Though I don’t like to talk about it, I’ve written about it (wait til you see what I do to “a husband” in one of my stories!). The other thing – and you’re doing it – is helping others. I find that when I reach out to others and just let them talk or unload, it makes me feel better, just listening to someone is so helpful for them. I make an impact on them, for them. It feels good. You are doing awesome work, I’m sure.
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Nov 13, 2018 @ 15:47:50
That’s such an awesome win-win solution 🙂 I’m glad you have found great ways to heal too, Karen!! ❤
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Nov 12, 2018 @ 07:05:20
Welcome back! So glad to see you here again and inspired once more. I’m looking forward to the new things that you can bring to light for us. We need your light!
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Nov 12, 2018 @ 09:59:03
Oh thank you!!! I’m very enthused to be back on track with all you wonderful bloggers!!!!! ❤
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Nov 11, 2018 @ 22:49:03
You go good girl!
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Nov 12, 2018 @ 06:31:19
!!!!!!! Thank you Cindy !!!!!!!!
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Nov 11, 2018 @ 18:19:42
So lovely to hear how you are inspired and the steps you are taking. It sounds like it’s the right time 💛
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Nov 12, 2018 @ 06:30:53
Thanks Val! It has been on my heart, but I’ve just been making excuses. Good to hear from you!!
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Nov 11, 2018 @ 18:17:08
I, too, am so glad you are back! My own blogging has fallen by the wayside and I’m just coming out of a difficult mess, so maybe together we can struggle back to writing and connecting with people. One of the things you said when we had lunch that day resonated with me so much and I have quoted it innumerable times. So glad we can make contact again.
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Nov 12, 2018 @ 06:30:06
Hi Esther, yes, yes! Let’s do this together! I love this idea! And I love reconnecting, too! 🙂
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Nov 11, 2018 @ 17:19:34
Blessings on your continued journey! Nice to have you back.
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Nov 11, 2018 @ 17:42:38
Thank you Allen!
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Nov 11, 2018 @ 16:23:23
That is amazing news! I’m so proud of you. That’s a natural career choice for you with so much empathy and compassion!!
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Nov 11, 2018 @ 16:25:49
Oh thank you so much!! I appreciate your encouragement and support!!
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Nov 16, 2018 @ 12:22:02
Wouldn’t it be fabulous if you could come and participate? Thank you for your encouragement. Keep up the great work! And yes, it is amazing that so many women come knowing that’s what they’ll do. Some of the women are “regulars” and come every year. Amazing!
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