The theme of adoption has always been of interest to me. As a child I used to tell people I was adopted. I always thought if you were adopted it meant you were wanted, therefore special. It never occurred to me there might be pain involved in being adopted, or giving a child up for adoption. Over the years I’ve spoken with people on both sides of the adoption picture and now understand it’s not the fairy tale I used to fantasize about.
**Spoiler Alert
The British movie Philomena caught my eye recently because of the adoption theme. Then it captured my heart because of the healing and forgiveness in her story.
This poignant movie is based on the true story of a woman’s search for her son 50 years after they were separated. She demonstrates an amazing sense of forgiveness to the cruel nuns who sold her toddler son and lied to her over the years about his whereabouts.
Throughout her journey, she vacillates from grief to anger and resignation to determination. The journalist she works with makes a wide turnaround from considering “human interest” stories for weak-minded people to someone with a heart who is definitely invested in Philomena’s story.
My fascination with adoption is partly why I was also attracted to the book “Two Hearts” by Linda Hoye. She was adopted as an infant and wrote a heart-tugging memoir about her journey to find her parents and siblings. Once I started Two Hearts, I couldn’t put it down. Her journey of self-discovery resonated with me despite our different backgrounds.
**Book Giveaway
Linda blogs at http://lindahoye.com/ about adoption, grandkids, and retiring. She’s originally from Canada, but currently lives in the Seattle area. We’ll be meeting for coffee soon and she’s going to sign my copy of her book. She’s also generously dontated a copy of her book to the winner of this giveaway. She’ll sign and ship to Canada or the U.S.
To enter, just leave a comment about how someone’s story –in person, by book, or movie inspired you.
Linda will mail to the US and Canada; I’ll draw the winning name on Thursday, Feb 6th and email the winner.
Update: 2/6/14
The winner is
Jan 31, 2014 @ 12:13:28
Philomena sounds like an amazing and heart wrenching movie and I’m looking forward to watching it. Thanks for pointing us towards Linda’s book and I hope you have a lovely chat over coffee! 😀
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Jan 31, 2014 @ 15:59:11
Thanks, Dianne! We’re meeting up this weekend!
I think it would be so fun to meet all my blogging friends! 🙂 Hope you enjoy the movie!
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 17:05:28
Thanks for hosting this giveaway of Two Hearts, Denise! I’m looking forward to our coffee date very soon!
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Jan 31, 2014 @ 11:52:46
Me too!!
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 16:24:26
Hi Denise,
I had always wondered how anybody could love an adopted child in the same manner as natural love erupts from inside a mother’s heart. I don’t know about men (whether they feel the same kind of attachment) but as a mother I have always had doubts till I saw two of my colleagues adopt children and doting on them as biological mothers do.
Yes, a lot of pain is involved in adoption but people refuse to share it in real life. All they like is glorify adoption, as if it were a trophy! But it is a blessing in disguise for some unwanted, abandoned children, who find a warm home, love and education. When I look at it from this angle, I am filled with appreciation for those who have the big heart to adopt.
A lovely thought Denise, and well connected.
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Jan 31, 2014 @ 11:52:30
Hi Balroop, you make such a great point about adoptive parents being able to love their kids as much/naturally as biological parents. If you are meant to be a parent, I guess it just comes out that way too!
Thank you for sharing so thoroughly -I always look forward to your comments.
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 12:50:44
Now I want to see that movie. One story that inspired me was about Shackleton in the book Endurance. Talk about a leader. Unbroken, about Louis Zamperini was super inspiring too. I can’t believe all he went through and his road to forgiveness.
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Jan 31, 2014 @ 11:50:28
Hi Char,
I enjoyed both of those books, too! Unbroken is supposed to be coming out in a movie this year I believe. His ability to forgive is amazing, too.
Great mentions! 🙂
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Jan 31, 2014 @ 14:14:18
Exciting. I hope it comes out. That was an amazing story.
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 08:22:11
Philomena, the movie brilliant. The real life situation so heartbreaking. I saw her in an interview on The View with the man who wrote it, also stared in the movie as the journalist. The look in her face when talking about the car pulling away and being absolutely helpless to do anything about it… I shake my head over how much sorrow there is in the world, unnecessary. Now to get my attention on something a little lighter. Thanks for the book giveaway link. Hugs to you.
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Jan 31, 2014 @ 11:49:28
Paulette -you said something so important here “…how much sorrow in the world, unnecessary…” What a much kinder, tender world we’d be in if we were all so much nicer to each other.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here, it’s always good to hear from you.
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 07:51:35
Thanks Denise for the book and movie recommendations. Always looking for something good, and I love books and movies that touch my heart. Wishing you the best.
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 08:17:31
You’re welcome Kathy! Hope you enjoy them as much as I did. Happy New Year!
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 06:13:41
I look forward to seeing the movie “Philomena.” I’ve heard great things about it.
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 08:16:47
There were lots of layers…something for everyone I think.
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 03:43:46
I know Linda! I’m so glad you are going to have coffee. I wish I could meet so many of my online connections. I have not seen Philomena, but hope to. I am sure there are so many stories, heartbreaking and heartwarming, about adoption.
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 08:16:23
Wouldn’t that be fun to make a WordPress tour and meet lots of our blogging friends?
That’s neat you know who Linda is, too!
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Jan 30, 2014 @ 17:04:26
A WordPress tour would, indeed, be fun!
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