June 12, 2013
Facing Fear, Personal Growth, Recovery
emotional strength, Facing Adversity, facing fear, finding freedom, gratitude, John Maynard Keynes, Leo Tolstoy, Letting Go, New Ideas, personal growth, recovery, Transformation, truth
“The difficulty lies not so much in developing new ideas as in escaping from old ones.”
~John Maynard Keynes
Ideas tend to wrap themselves so deeply into our psyches, they affect our lives on a daily basis. Many of these ideas are simply playing in the background; we aren’t even aware of them.
It can come as a shock when someone says something contrary to our comfortable idea. We might push their idea away as crazy, foolish, ridiculous, or even offensive. But, what if…. More
June 2, 2013
Alcoholic Parents, Facing Fear, My Journey with God, Personal Growth, Recovery
alcoholic parents, emotional strength, Facing Adversity, facing fear, finding freedom, Forgiveness, healing, Heather Kopp, parenting, recovery, Sober Mercies, Transformation, truth
Heather Kopp’s book “Sober Mercies” is so much more than the courageous story of a woman facing her demons.
She weaves her story of childhood experiences and adult choices in a vulnerable and honest telling. She doesn’t play the victim card, but rather takes us through her journey of recognizing what led her to her downfall and why faith alone wasn’t enough to save her from alcohol.
Heather also powerfully and purposefully addresses More
May 29, 2013
Alcoholic Parents, Facing Fear, My Journey with God, Personal Growth, Recovery, Trauma
abuse survivor, alcoholic parents, childhood trauma, Facing Adversity, facing fear, Family, finding freedom, Forgiveness, forgiving dad, gratitude, healing, parenting, personal growth, Spiritual Journey, Struggle to Forgive, Transformation
…and How Forgiving Brings Freedom…
The decision to forgive my dad was borne of a long labor.
Although I’d always felt and said I wanted to forgive him, I couldn’t seem to actually do it. Maybe my mind hadn’t transferred the abuse from something to survive into something to forgive yet.
I’d hidden the abuse for so long, it became acceptable in its own sick way. I compartmentalized the abuse and split my dad into two people. There was the dad who abused me; but then there was the dad who played cards with me, taught me to fly his plane, and took me fishing. As children, we are dependent and vulnerable; we have no choice but to find a way to accept the abuse in order to survive.
All I ever wanted was to have a happy, loving dad/daughter relationship. It took me years before I admitted to myself just how wrong and destructive his abuse was. I wanted to forgive him, but for a long time I thought I could only forgive if I had his apology first.
Through a long, difficult journey of self-discovery and spiritual maturing, I began to realize forgiving him didn’t even involve him. More
May 26, 2013
My Journey with God, Personal Growth, Recovery
abuse survivor, Blogging, emotional strength, finding freedom, Forgiveness, getting help, gratitude, healing, One Year Anniversary, personal growth, recovery, Transformation, truth
With chattering teeth, wide eyes, and pounding heart I started my blog one year ago today.
I had absolutely no idea what I was getting myself into! I felt compelled to begin a blog as part of telling my story in the hopes of encouraging others to do the same.
Turns out, the blogging community has been a most surprising delight! I thought today was the perfect day to tell you More
May 15, 2013
Facing Fear, Personal Growth, Recovery, Trauma
abuse survivor, Amanda Berry, Amanda Gina Michelle, childhood trauma, Cleveland Kidnapping, emotional strength, Facing Adversity, facing fear, Family, finding freedom, getting help, Gina DeJesus, healing, Michelle Knight, parenting, personal growth, recovery, trauma, truth
***Caution: There are graphic descriptions in this post. If you are concerned about being triggered, please do not read this.***
When the news broke of the three women in Cleveland who’d been held captive for ten years, I felt a rush of sisterhood. I was never chained in a room or beaten, so I cannot relate to these aspects of what Gina DeJesus, Michelle Knight, and Amanda Berry went through. Their nightmare is a unique and horrific one I cannot fully fathom. But there is much of their story I can relate to.
They have been heavy on my mind ever since the story ran, but I’ve been hesitant to write about them. I’m aware the more ‘normal’ response is shock; but I feel this kinship instead. I desperately want to be ‘normal,’ but my history has robbed me of many aspects of normal. After much reflection, I sensed a calling to share my perspective in the hopes of giving every outraged person a way to use their anger for good. More
May 2, 2013
Healing With Humor, Personal Growth, Recovery
dogs, emotional strength, Family, finding freedom, Grandpuppy, gratitude, healing, Laughing, parenting, personal growth, Transformation
I admit it…I’m a sap when it comes to dogs, and puppies easily turn me into a babbling idiot.
We had to say goodbye to our last dog, Lady, a year ago. I never thought I’d be without a dog, but we’ve needed this doggie break. We’re not sure when we’ll fill the empty nest again, but…
To my great surprise and delight, our daughter and son-in-law recently adopted a dog from the pound, and now I HAVE A GRANDPUPPY!!!
Me and Jessie -My Grandpuppy!
April 27, 2013
Alcoholic Parents, Facing Fear, Personal Growth, Recovery, Trauma
childhood trauma, emotional strength, Facing Adversity, facing fear, Family, finding freedom, Forgiveness, Forrest Gump, getting help, gratitude, healing, personal growth, Spiritual Journey, Transformation, truth
It didn’t take long for me to realize “Forrest Gump”, would become one of my favorite movies. There are so many layers of raw emotion and humanity; I glean something new each time I see it. It’s one of those rare movies that makes you laugh, cry, reflect, and quote for years to come.
From the get-go, Forrest captures the heart of anyone who’s experienced bullying. His best friend, Jenny, does her best to help him when she famously says “Run, Forrest, Run!” to escape his tormentors. Forrest takes her advice and as he struggles to run, his leg braces miraculously fall off. This is such a marvelous visual: struggling, leaving our comfort zone, shedding our shackles, and moving forward. More